There was an interesting post on mamalicious about meaningless sex. Can women have meaningless sex? It really got me thinking.
First I thought, I have had meaningless sex. But on further thought I wonder.
Gigi seems to think that sex is meaningful (most of the time) for women but not so for men. (This is very bad paraphrasing, and not quite what she said. To see that, go read her blog. Go on, it's a good one.) I don't quite agree with her. I think sex is probably meaningful to both, in the ways she mentioned. We have sex to express many things, be it lust, love, power, insecurity, curiosity, affection, fear, whatever. So the meaning of sex is something to do with self-expression. It also makes us feel good and connects us to each other (pun intended). The purpose of sex may be to make babies. But I think men would find they give meanings to sex as much as us women do. Men and women aren't that different.
I create meaning out of everything. I don't believe there is an external meaning or purpose for the world. I make my own meanings. So, generally, I found meaning in every encounter I have had. Sometimes I had to look for the meaning afterwards; sometimes it was more that I looked for something to learn from the experience. Sometimes I just enjoyed it. Sometimes I just didn't.
I don't know what life means, or sex. The purpose I have created for myself is to learn as much as I can, to experience as much as I can, to love, to communicate and to enjoy my life. Part of that is sex. So perhaps I've never really had meaningless sex.
What do you think? Is sex ever really meaningless? Any men, women or intersex people out there with an opinion? (Oh God, please let it be intersex. I want some different perspectives on this males vs. females debate.)